I'm starting a short blog series on what people say by what they wear. This idea came to me after writing about my observations of people one day while waiting in the checkout line at the grocery store. It's not meant to be a series on modesty, or even just what people say about themselves by the way they dress. I want to dig a little deeper into a few ideas that we may not always think about. I'm not saying that all my thoughts are true. They are thoughts and questions, so please don't take offense by what I put out here.
I was waiting in the checkout line on a busy Friday afternoon, on
probably one of the hottest days of the summer and most people were
dressed accordingly. To be honest, I get annoyed sometimes when people
always complain about immodesty, but I can't say it doesn't bother me. I
just don't vocalize it very much. I often become very conscious of
what people around me are wearing, especially when I'm out in public
with a man.
On this day, I certainly did notice it.
Immodesty can be amusing, as strange as it sounds. It's funny to see
how girls act when dressed in such delicate outfits. They try to hold
everything together without anyone noticing. A young woman walked by me
wearing a pair of short denim shorts and a loose fitting, but very
short yellow top exposing several inches of her tanned midriff. As she
was carrying a basket of groceries in one hand, she was trying to
inconspicuously tug at her shorts with the other, which seemed a little
big around the waist. Now, I must say that a lot of girls who wear
such exposing outfits are really not as hot as they think they are. You
notice this as well when you go to the beach and see how many larger
women wear such exposing swimwear. But that's besides the point.
I thought about that day was how women who dress like this actually
disrespect themselves. Now I'm not sure how to explain this in a way
that makes sense. I don't know why some girls dress the way they do.
Do they simply want to be cool and comfortable? Do they really think
their bodies look that awesome, hot or sexy? Do they do it because it's
expected of them? Or out of rebellion? Do they want the attention
from guys? I'm sure for many of them, that's what they crave. But do
they know what kind of attention they're actually attracting? If they
knew, would they still want it? Or would they be disgusted? Would they
get defensive and say "Well, they don't have to look!"?
is there deep down actually a lack of self-worth? Do they really
believe their bodies aren't worth saving for their spouse? Do they
think they're worthless trash, only wanted for one thing? Do they
wonder if perhaps they really are just something they're always called,
so they might as well look the part?
causing them to dress the way they do, I believe many girls lack respect
for themselves. They have somehow been convinced that their bodies,
their sexuality, aren't something sacred, but rather to be flaunted for
the world to see. They have been convinced they have to look that way
in order to be accepted or "loved". If they don't, no guy will ever
What the girl doesn't realize is that the
right guy who will truly love her, not lust after her, will respect her
for what she doesn't show the whole world. He will love her for not
flaunting her body and sexuality. He doesn't want what she shares with
everyone who passes by, but what she can give to him alone in marriage.
And that's beautiful.
To be continued...