For some, praying for a person you don't know is kind of weird. Yeah. That was probably the biggest struggle I faced when I started. How do I pray for someone if I don't even know who he is, or don't know what's going on in his life? The wonderful thing is, you may not know who you will marry, or what's going on in that man's life, but God does, and He cares about this area of your life.
You may not know the specifics of what is going on his life, but you can still pray. You can start by praying that He would follow after God whole-heartedly. You can pray that he would be a man of the Word and a man of prayer. What kind of character qualities do you want to see in him? Pray that He will grow in those areas. Do you want him to be part of a ministry or serving in an area of the church? Pray for that. Pray that he would walk in purity, that he would flee from temptation and youthful lusts, that he would keep his heart, mind and body for you. Pray that he would cut off sin from in his life and walk in holiness. Pray that God would use him in his single years for His service and glory.
Pray that God would direct his heart to you and have wisdom as to when and how to initiate and lead your relationship. Pray that God would prepare him to be the spiritual leader and provider for your home, that he would have wisdom in raising your children when God so blesses you. It's probably also wise to pray that your parents and other counselors in your life would have the wisdom to help you discern God's best for you, and allow yourself to be open to their counsel.
Now, remember, this isn't all about who you want your husband to be. Chances are you have lofty dreams of this man and, if you're smart, you're praying about some great and amazing things for him. I know I do. But if you want to marry Mr. Awesome, you have to be a woman suitable for him. So instead of just praying for him, pray that God will prepare you to be the woman, the help meet that he needs. Keep yourself pure, and conduct yourself in a way that would be pleasing to your husband if he was watching you. Honour him, even now, with your life. And keep yourself busy and productive, serving the Lord and others while you wait for God to bring you together.
I have prayed about all these aspects at some time or other, and most on a very regular basis. I admit though that there are still times when I definitely feel stuck. What do I pray for? How do I pray about this man? Sometimes I feel like I say the same thing over and over. One of the things I have done at times is ask God how He wants me to pray for my future husband. I ask God to lead me as I pray. Something changes in the way I prayed when I do that. At times, I don't understand why I am asking God for the things I am, but I trust it's His leading. One day, the purpose of it all will be revealed to me.
It could also be that as you pray for your future husband, or ask God to lead you, that you will start praying in a way you don't necessarily understand. You may start praying for qualities you otherwise didn't consider. It may be that God will guide you to pray about someone specifically. I don't know how God moves in everyone's prayer times. I don't know what He will do when you seek His direction in this area. But I encourage you to pray boldly, persistently, and daily about this area of your life. When you marry the man you're praying for, you will enter into a covenant that is a representation of Christ's relationship with His church. That's not something to take lightly, and thus, it's something to pray about diligently.
Some who will read this post will certainly be familiar with the song "Faithfully" by Eric and Leslie Ludy. The idea of waiting faithfully is not a very popular one in our world. Many may not understand why you're giving up pleasure now for something they don't believe exists, or why you're praying for someone if you don't even know who he is. Listen to this song. It may give you an ache in your heart, but I also hope that you will take the words to heart and commit to faithfully waiting and praying for your man.