I've been writing about books a lot lately, so now I'm going to focus a little on music. I've been noticing a trend in music lately. Not in Christian music, but rather in "secular music", if you want to use that term. I don't usually hear a lot, so maybe I'm not a proper judge in the matter, but it seems that there's a lot more songs out there these days about broken relationships than beautiful love songs. Probably the closest thing to love songs I hear when I go to the mall are sexual.
Basically, the world doesn't seem to believe anymore that love can last, that marriages can stay together, and it's largely reflected in the world's music. Yes, I could easily mention a number of songs that do still believe in a sweet, lasting love, but I think heartache may be fast taking over. Music seems to be stripping away the fairy tale dreams many girls have and forcing a reality check. Prince Charming doesn't exist and neither does Cinderella.
Taylor Swift's song "Love Story" was followed up by songs like "White Horse" and "Mine". In "White Horse" she sings:
"I'm not a princess, this ain't a fairytale
I'm not the one you'll sweep off her feet
Lead her up the stairwell
This ain't Hollywood, this is a small town
I was a dreamer before you went and let me down
Now it's too late for you and your white horse to come around."
"Mine" ends much more positively, but near the beginning she says "I was a flight risk with a fear of falling, wondering why we ever bother with love if it never lasts."
Mat Kearney's song "Ships in the Night" echos a similar message:
"Like ships in the night
You keep passing me by
Just wasting time
Trying to prove who's right
And if it all goes crashing into the sea
If it's just you and me
Trying to find the light"
"How many of our parents seem to make it anyway?
We're just fumbling through the gray
Trying to find a heart that's not walking away."
Josh Groban sings a touching song called "War at Home" centred around families. Yes, there's pain, but in the midst, there's still a willingness to fight.
Yes, these are only very few examples, and the lyrics I provided are only snippets, but a recurring idea in many songs is the fact that the artists haven't seen it work out. Children grow up seeing their parents' marriages fall apart, their friends marry and the same thing happens. Girls grow up to believe that guys are only after one thing. Guys think they have to "conquer" the girls in order to be a man. So they settle for casual dating or one night stands. Society really hasn't offered us much hope.
What about the church? Are Christians offering us hope? Divorces among Christians are increasing all the time. Do our young people have reason to believe that a lasting love is possible?
I'm speaking from a single young woman's perspective. I'm a dreamer, just like countless other girls who long for a happily ever after ending, but many have tried to crush that dream. No, I'm not deserving of the man I hope to marry, but I want to be. No, he won't be perfect, but I admit I do often have that idea. Yes, I know it takes work and although sometimes I wonder how it's possible, I understand there will be rough spots in the road. But I know it is possible. I know we can prepare now for a beautiful future and God-honouring marriage.
No, the world may not believe it's possible anymore. They may give up on love songs and happily ever after. But I'm not giving up hope yet.